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Thursday, February 28, 2013

Powered by Chesed

Like most educators, actually, probably like most people, I dread the day that I return to work after vacation. It’s not that I don’t want to go back to school. As a principal, I truly enjoy what I do. It’s the shift from the routine of vacation to that of work that I find jarring. It is an awkward transition from a (hopefully) more relaxed pace to a more frenetic pace. This week was different. While, of course, there was a portion of me that would have loved to sleep a little later on Monday morning, I was excited to step foot back in the building.

For weeks, the anticipation of our Shushan Purim Chesed Day has been building among the staff. Rabbi Josh Rabin, our Rav Beit Sefer, kept us updated with each contact that he made for the various service projects that would be available for our students. Plans were set for a modified schedule and buses were ordered for the high school projects, while supplies were purchased for the middle school project.

But on Monday morning, it was finally here.

With a group of 9th and 10th graders, I excitedly boarded the bus to AHRC. We were eagerly greeted and we began to visit and play with a group of autistic preschool and elementary school students. The ice and awkwardness quickly melted as the Schechter students followed their new friends from station to station in a physical education activity in the AHRC gym. Everyone was smiling, laughing, and enjoying themselves.

Perhaps the most touching aspect of the experience was the reluctance of our students to leave AHRC. They had seen first hand how they could touch someone else’s life and, perhaps, this is the real purpose of giving matanot l’evyonim (gifts to the poor). Our students connected with people who they could have seen as the “other,” but instead saw them as fellow human beings.

This single event has kept me powered for an entire week.

While we work to plan other opportunities for our students to engage in tikkun olam, we encourage you to reach out to these agencies or others that we worked with and encourage your child to make volunteering part of their lives. As a school, we have a community service/hesed requirement because we strongly believe that tikkun olam needs to be an integral part of our lives as Jews and we lay the groundwork for what we hope will be lifelong habits here at Schechter.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Powerful Food

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I am a firm believer in the power of food. It is an almost elemental force that reaches deep into us and has the power to change our lives. Other ideals, kindness, love, world peace, and repairing the world, are intricately related to the power of food and can be addressed through the use of the power of food.

Food has the power to build or destroy and recognizing this and using its powers for good would change the world. The absence of food is all consuming. Civil society can collapse during shortages of food as hunger consumes all those around it. Our baser natures may emerge when we lack basic nourishment and we may revert to more animal behaviors to meet our needs.

Conversely, as I learned personally during Super Storm Sandy, food has the power to improve communities. As we huddled together with two other families during the storm and its aftermath, food drew us together and created community where it had not existed before. Shared meal preparation built lasting bonds.

The simple gesture of sharing food with others creates moments of kindness that can spread. Within a Jewish lens, food has the power to force us recognize our place in the world and our relationship with the Infinite. Many of us prepare meals for others as an act of culinary-based love.
On a grander scale, food has the power to change the geopolitical landscape. Scarcity of resources cause political instability and can topple governments. As I learned from shifting  from working in a poor, urban area where the next meal for a child was not guaranteed to the more affluent suburbs, I have learned that food has the power to free you from worries and stress. Magnify this across an entire community and the presence of food can change the course of history. Simply supplying everyone with enough food could limit the amount of conflict in the world.

Perhaps, though, the power of food is best summed up by the impact that a home cooked meal has on your family or your guests. It brings people together for a shared experience while demonstrating the care and affection of the chef. Simply put, food can create love, peace, kindness, and create a better world.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Why?

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The largest challenge facing the North American Jewish community may be summed up by the most challenging question that my almost five year old has ever asked, “Why?” This question is difficult because she is not satisfied by the stock answer of “because I said so” or “because it’s the rule.” She is trying to make sense of the world around her and she really wants to the know the answer to her question because she is on a constant quest to create meaning and relevance.

The North American Jewish community has found itself in a similar position. The marketplace of ideas and opportunities are overflowing with options and we are not making a compelling case to our youth (or even adults in many cases) that Jewish life is rich and vibrant, and most importantly, meaningful and relevant. There are a myriad of Jewish opportunities available from youth groups to day school to gap year programs. Are they truly having the impact that we desire?

During my senior year of college, I conducted research looking at what factors enhanced Jewish identity in college students. My results were disheartening. Despite a reasonable sample size and a focus groups to help interpret the qualitative data, the only tangible result that I could present was that supplementary school experiences had a negative impact. No other result presented as statistically significant in either direction.

As a product of a combination of religious school, youth group, Jewish summer camp, Hillel, and an observant home life, this data continues to haunt me. I wonder why so many of my peers have not chosen to live Jewishly engaged lives. In my role as a day school administrator, I worry that we are working with a model that reaches to too few. At the same time, while day school education has been shown to create leaders in the Jewish community, I encounter many who left their day school experience turned off from Judaism.

As a leader in the Jewish community, I clearly see the need for us to embrace the challenge of relevance and meaning. Judaism is an incredible product whose multi-faceted nature has the ability to reach out to a diverse number of Jews. As an educational leader, I want to be in the trenches working to create the experiences that will bring relevance and meaning. I want to be working expand on the successes of successful models of engagement while trying to understand while other models have failed and learn from those failures. We need to create partnerships and synergies that allow us meld together the most effective interventions and programs and I want to be part of solutions that change the landscape of Jewish education and engagement.

Within the day school world, we need to become exemplars of educational practices for both general and Jewish studies. While minimally engaged families may not be initially attracted by the Jewish studies program, we need to make the case for the deeper skills, such as empathy, critical reading, and problem solving, that Jewish studies build and how they enhance, not just general studies, but the entire child. We need to learn from the success of youth groups and camps that build a love of Judaism through their affective programming that does not over intellectualize Judaism.

I would be remiss, however, if I did not mention that even the most meaningful and relevant experiences are useless if they are not accessible. Building towards this grand vision of learning environments that create engaged Jews is useless if we cannot tackle the affordability question. Without a doubt, Jewish life as it is currently construed in North America is an expensive proposition and in a world with some many competing demands for our dollars, we need to make sure that the experiences that we create are worthy of the financial support of our constituents. While creating a compelling product will not solve the affordability question, it will go a long way towards creating the demand and desire that will impact the financial issues.
We simply need to answer the question, “Why?”

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Friday Letter - February 15, 2013

RainbowThe room was silent. You could hear a pin drop. It didn't matter that there were more than 150 people seated or standing in the gym. The room could not have been quieter empty. Eyes were facing front. No one was shifting in their seat. The entire focus of the room was towards the podium.

These respectful, dignified reactions were beautiful to watch on Tuesday morning. Our students, regardless of how they personally felt about gay marriage, Judaism and homosexuality, or any related issues, made an incredible statement with their behavior. That statement, as they listened to an alumna tell her story of hiding her identity and gradually coming out, was that each individual is deserving of dignity and respect. It continued as their peers stood in front of them to introduce clips of the movie Hineini: Coming Out in a Jewish High School which depicts the story of a student in a Boston Jewish high school grappling with her sexual identity. As the students moved upstairs into workshops that they had selected earlier in the week, the level of dignity and respect that they afforded each other as they discussed topics that could be potentially fraught with emotion was similarly high.

This is a powerful statement.

I recently saw that this past week had been declared National Random Acts of Kindness week by the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation. What occurred here, in my mind, was much more powerful than a random act of kindness. While we encourage our students to engage the world with derekh eretz and look for moments where they can do tikun olam, there is something even more meaningful when our students actively work as a group to create an environment that provides dignity and respect to everyone. It recognizes that as a community, we are responsible for setting the tone in each and every conversation that we have with another person.

Through our actions and our words, we shape the environment around us. This Tuesday’s program, a product of collaboration between the Tzibur Club and its advisor Becky Friedman-Charry, Robin Stanton, and Rabbi Josh Rabin, laid the foundation for creating an environment that is more accepting of our individual differences. When we return from break, students will have the opportunity to again shape their environment by engaging in acts of tikun olam at our school and in the community for our Upper School Chesed Day. Step by step, we are changing our school and our world.

Friday, February 8, 2013

Friday Letter - February 8, 2013

This week I had the pleasure of attending the North American Jewish Day School Conference in Washington, D.C along with Dr. Dolgin and SSLI Board President Ira Balsam. Over 1,000 people were present representing hundreds of schools. The conference is a collaboration between two of the organizations that our school is a member of, the Schechter Day School Network and Ravsak, along with PEJE, Yeshiva University, and Pardes, the Reform day school association.

One of most encouraging things about attending a conference like this is seeing how vibrant Jewish day school life is and how energized and committed our colleagues are to continuing to grow and innovate within the field. Workshops focused on enhancing our schools through a variety of tools, many of which we have already begun to work with here at the Schechter School of Long Island.

Even more powerful, though, is the ability to engage in conversation with colleagues about the challenges that each of our schools face. Through this dialogue, I gained new insights and ideas into issues like scheduling, tefillah, special programs, and blended and online learning.

The challenge following any professional development opportunity, like any new learning experience, is in applying the knowledge back at home. Over the coming days and weeks, I am looking forward to the individual and collective conversations with our faculty as I partner with them to continue to grow and enhance our school using my experiences at the day school conference as a catalyst.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Friday Letter - February 1, 2013

I'm continuing to experiment with podcasting the sounds of school during the week in order to give families a taste of what happens in our amazing educational environment. 

Take an audio tour of many of the classes and other experiences that the Upper School students have had through the last two weeks. You will hear classroom experiences, our Martin Luther King day programming, and our Tu’ B’shvat programs. Take a listen here.

Shabbat Shalom!